Tuesday Tidbits: Brené Brown

Introducing: Tuesday Tidbits, your weekly digest of motivational quotes and philosophies from the leaders of today. Because just because you don't have time to read personal development books or watch TED talks, it doesn't mean you can't learn from them. Each week in Tuesday Tidbits, I'll provide summaries, key points, and thought-provoking quotes from today's game changers. Take what you need, and explore more if you fancy.

Today's featured leader: Brené Brown
Ph.D., LMSW, author of a lot of New York Times Bestsellers

I recently started reading Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. I had to hold myself back from painting the entire page yellow. Every word, every feeling, so perfectly represents exactly how I feel, how I've felt. I'm trying to read it slowly – to absorb every molecule, but it's difficult to put down. In Daring Greatly, Brené divulges 12 years of research on vulnerability, and argues that to be our greatest selves, we mustn't shy away from the uncomfortable, but rather, we must embrace it.

Notable quotes (Introduction – Chapter 2):

"When we spend our lives waiting until we're perfect or bulletproof before we walk into the area, we ultimately sacrifice relationships and opportunities that may not be recoverable."
"Perfect and bulletproof are seductive, but they don't exist in the human experience."
"Vulnerability is life's great dare. It's life asking, are you all in? Can you value your own vulnerability as much as you value it in others?"
"Think about [your] friendships as marble jars. Whenever someone supports you, or is kind to you, or sticks up for you, or honors what you share with them as private, you put marbles in the jar. When people are mean, or disrespectful, or share your secrets, marbles come out."
"Trust is a product of vulnerability that grows over time and requires work, attention, and full engagement. Trust isn't a grand gesture—it's a growing marble collection."

After reading the first few chapters of Daring Greatly, I decided I needed more. I found Brené's TedxHouston Talk – one that she references early on in Daring Greatly. Not surprisingly, her talk was equally eloquent and inspirational. Some highlights:

"Lean into the discomfort of the work."
"Connection is why we're here. It's what gives purpose and meaning to our lives. This is what it's all about." 
"When you ask people about love, they tell you about heartbreak. When you ask people about belonging, they'll tell you their most excruciating experiences of being excluded, and when you ask people about connections, the stories they told me were about disconnection."
"The people who have a strong sense of love and belonging, believe they're worthy of love and belonging. That's it. They believe they're worthy."
"The original definition of courage is ... to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart."
"You're imperfect and you're wired for struggle, but you're worthy of love and belonging."

Want more? Watch Brené's TED talk, or grab a hold of one of her books (if using Amazon Smile, please choose Twende Solar as your beneficiary!) See you next week on Tuesday Tidbits!